Keeping My Head Above Water

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Day 263

I am so far behind on blog reading and responding to comments. I am an early riser so I have time to shower, catch up with hubby and have a cup of coffee before the day takes off. Then I have time when everyone goes to bed, but by then, I am exhausted and ready for sleep.

I tease my grandchildren and tell them that Grandma needs her rest and needs to go to bed early. Last night, we watched a Chipmunk movie and I heard my 6-year-old grandson talking to his sister. “It’s 8:38! It already past Grandma’s bedtime.” Ha! I am not that bad. We forget how much kids treasure staying up late, especially the first week of their summer vacation.

Yesterday was busy, but a few tender moments were on my mind.

It was the 27th anniversary of my Dad’s death. He passed so close to Father’s Day, it was a very hard loss. He was my best friend and I miss him every day. I do not live in the grief — instead I choose to remember him full of life with that spark in his eye. He would have loved seeing these rambunctious great-grandchildren of his. He was all about the little ones.

Yesterday was also the 3rd anniversary of the massacre at the Pulse nightclub in Orlando. I have family and friends in the LGBTQ community (wouldn’t it be nice if we were all of the same community?) which makes this hit home even more. It is so sad to remember this horrible shooting and so hard to realize nothing has been done in these intervening years to prevent such a tragedy from happening again. This morning I watched the video of Anderson Cooper reciting the names of the victims. It is a tough watch. Lest we forget…

I also took my granddaughter to get her hair washed and braided at the salon. Much to my surprise her brother wanted to come along. Luckily, it was a short appointment — just shy of an hour — so he survived!

Then it was home, dinner and a movie. A very full day indeed.

I find myself looking forward to going home this weekend. Not because I want to get away for I have loved every minute. God knew what he was doing when he gave children to the young and limber.

Hope to catch up some this weekend.


The Biggest Gift We Can Give

Day 214

When I think back to my childhood, I can remember a few very special toys, but most of my memories are times spent with people who loved me.

Spending a few days with my grandchildren as their primary caregiver reminds me how important the simple gift of our time is to children. It is not enough to have shared time with us, they each crave individual time where each of them can feel like the most important thing in our life. And that, my friend requires some planning. It is not the easiest thing to accomplish with multiple children, but it is so important.

Even looking back on the time with my own children, my special memories are also around moments. Moments as a family unit but also moments where it was just the two of us. Moments where we talked about important things and moments we laughed in silliness.

I look at the debris path sometimes left behind from poorly constructed toys. They have such a short time span in which they occupy a child’s time and energy. Yesterday, for instance, I taught my granddaughter how to cut paper dolls that hold hands and she showed me how to cut snowflakes out of paper. When my grandson wants to play something, he always goes back to make-up games we have played for years that require nothing but imagination.

Of course they have their favorite toys, but what they really want from us is quality time with no phones or interruptions. Of course that requires time and energy, but it is so rewarding. This is the time that creates forever memories.


We Are Not In This Alone

Day 47

I started a blog post this morning, but by evening, my heart just wasn’t in it. It didn’t feel authentic and true. I may finish and post it later in the week. But for tonight, I leave you with this simple thought. We were never intended to traverse this world alone. We need family and friends to see us through. Nearing Thanksgiving, consider reconnecting with someone or reach out to someone new. If you are lonely, there are many others that feel the same. If you are sad, there are people who will offer you a shoulder. If you miss someone, let them know. Let go of ego and find some happiness and joy and thanksgiving. And by all means, if you are filled with joy and happiness, share the love.

Often times the person standing in our way is the person in the mirror.

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Love and Support

Day 34

Today’s post will be short. I am taking a spur of the moment trip to see my daughter and her family for a few days. As a matter of fact, posts may be short for the next week or so. 😁

It’s the Little Things

Of course marriage is about love, but it is also about supporting each other.

This morning while I was packing, I could hear hubby downstairs practicing the mandolin. We both believe it is important to be actively involved in the creative process. When he told me he wanted to do this I was surprised but so happy for him. He has been taking classes for 8 weeks and I love hearing him progress.

This morning I heard him playing Wildwood Flower. It made me think of my mom. It was one of her favorite songs and one of the ways she measured someone’s ability to play the guitar.

When our daughter called and asked me if I could come for a few days, there was no question other than working out the logistics.

This morning I made lasagne so he would have plenty to eat while I was gone. He cooks most of the summer months, so it’s not like he cannot fend for himself. It’s just a small way I can support him because he has a lot on his schedule while I am gone.

Our love, our support and our family are all integral pieces of this place we call home.

“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”
Dave Meurer