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SoCS – Girl, Wash Your Face

Day 258

Linda has given us quite a creative challenge this week — one that is being repeated. It will, however, be the first time I have written from this fun prompt:

Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “open book, point, write.” Pick up the closest book to you when you sit down to write your post. Close your eyes, open the book, and place your finger on the page. Whatever word or phrase your finger lands on, write about it. Enjoy!

The Book I chose is “Girl, Wash Your Face”, by Rachel Hollis. I have not read it yet, so this should be fun!

Page 69.
“Friends, it’s not about the goal or the dream you have. It’s about who you become on your way to that goal.”

Whew, that’s a powerful phrase right there. Sometimes I have a difficult time articulating a goal or a dream for this phase of my life — other than to be happy and at peace. Those are pretty big goals in and of themselves. Oh, I have a lot of things I’d ‘like’ to do, but they are not what I would consider goals for my life. I thought about writing about the first word ‘friends’ but suddenly I got a little choked up on that one. Friends have come and gone in my life and the numbers of people in that category have dwindled a lot. No, not in the mindset to tackle those ideas today.

Who I am becoming, however, is everything that is happening in my life at present. Finding peace is about allowing the world’s events to happen around me and not trying to make them happen to me. Happiness, I am finding is a choice. It’s amazing how many times I look back across my life and see the number of times I chose to be unhappy. It’s a difficult reckoning.

Who chooses to be unhappy you might ask? We all do. We let problems and challenges have a bigger life that they deserve. We are confronted with a sad or unhappy situation and instead of just accepting it as one of the swirls of life, we choose to get in the soup and swirl along with it. Staying in a bad marriage. Taking on someone else’s pain. Trying to change ourselves to match some mold we think we need to fit into. Feeling guilt instead of forgiving. Despising instead of loving.

I remember well when I read ‘Loving What Is’. It was not an easy concept for me to accept. I would say it took years before I truly understood it all. Byron Katie wrote a very simple concept but difficult idea to put into practice. Loving whatever surrounds us is a big ask from the Universe.

Then I was gifted the Kyle Cease experience and learned how to put meditation into my life and again, the message of loving what swirls around us takes some practice for sure. Funny how this similar message was to resurface in my life at this time. It has certainly helped me become the person I am meant to be — whatever goal or dream I set for myself. Now with the phrase from the book I chose today, I guess it’s time to find a few quiet moments to read “Girl, Wash Your Face”.

I think learning to be happy and at peace are some very positive and very attainable goals.

Have you been reading some of the SoCS posts but not sure you were ready to participate? No time like the present I say. Just click the link to check out Linda’s post for all the rules. Make sure you take the time to read all the wonderful takes on this interesting prompt.


Rainy Day Musings

Day 12

It is a rainy day here in the foothills. I did not sleep well last night so I was tired when the alarm went off at 7:00 am. Since retiring I rarely set an alarm, but on Tuesdays I have a 9:00 am class. I get up, have a cup of coffee and a small breakfast, chat with my daughter for a few minutes as she drives to work, and then get dressed and out the door.

Rainy Day Blahs

I love my lapidary class so I am always anxious to get up and go. This morning, though, I actually contemplated going back to bed. I was tired and not in the right frame of mind to do the meticulous work required. Of course, I talked myself out of skipping class as I knew I would.

The doors were not open when I arrived, so I walked around the grounds of the school for a bit. I had a chance to pet a dog someone was walking and snap a couple of pictures of the flowers growing outside the entrance. That’s where the pleasantries ended.

I spent the first hour and a half working on a lovely stone. It was difficult to shape and very messy. The water was like a red clay bath. I was almost finished cutting the girdle and refining the shape of the stone when I heard a slight ‘crunch’ sound. I knew immediately the stone snapped.

At that point there was nothing to do but move on. I made the decision to cut the stone into a different shape and put it aside. I have learned when I get frustrated with a particular piece, it’s best to move on and work on something new. I had a piece of blue lace agate that would make two nice sized cabochons so I turned my attention to it.

lapidary.JPGUsually on Tuesday afternoon I like to post a pic on Instagram of the pieces I finished in class. Well, there will be no Instagram pics today. Everything is still in progress. Next week is my last class so I have three pieces in progress to focus on.

We think we can always do everything on our plates in a given day even if we are not hitting on all cylinders. I learned today that is not the case. Maybe taking the day to rest from a rather sleepless night would have been a better choice. I ended up frustrated and stressed.

Lessons Learned

GirlWashYourFaceI think I should listen to the advice I give so freely to others. Rest. Take it easy. Give yourself a break. Take a moment. All great advice if I would simply listen to my own counsel. My mom always used to say, “Listen to your gut”. Today I should have listened.

My daughter told me about an audio book she was listening to. She was so excited about it, I decided to buy a copy and put it aside for a day — well — a day like today. Girl, Wash Your Face, by Rachel Hollis was (and may still be) #1 on the New York Times best sellers list. If I had listened to my gut, I could have stayed home, enjoyed a cup of tea and read a good book while the rain soothed my soul. Next time I think I’ll listen.

“Rainy days should be spent at home with a cup of tea and a good book.” 
Bill Watterson