Behavior Unbecoming

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I did not want to taint my retreat story with this observation so I decided to wait until tonight to post it.

When I flew home Sunday, I was the first in my row to board the plane. Unfortunately I had a center seat which is never my favorite. I was just getting settled when a young woman turned into the row and said “I am sitting here and you need to move, you are overflowing into my seat.”

Coming from a very relaxed and zen state of mind, this threw me off. It seems the corner of my unzipped jacket was touching her seat as I put my overnight case under the seat in front of me. I moved my jacket as she slammed down the armrest perhaps to serve as a barrier.

Within a few minutes, a woman somewhat older than I stopped and indicated she was seated in the window seat. We stood to let her take her seat. She was similarly brusk.

The flight was completely booked so space in the overhead compartment was limited. Two people tried to rearrange the small backpacks these women had in the overhead bin to which both these women became very irate about not touching their bags. Voices were raised, the young woman telling people to shut up and the older woman also raising her voice to anyone who touched her bag.

I will not go into the detail of the verbal exchange, but the behavior was uncalled for on both their accounts. I donned my noise cancelling headphones and watched Netflix for the duration of the flight as the passengers around us rolled their eyes in disbelief.

I find this type of behavior unnerving. After returning from a retreat where women dig deep to get to know each other and go out of their way to help each other, seeing two women behave in such a way was certainly disconcerting.

Why must people be so rude? What is the cause of the chip they wear on their shoulder. I think they could use a retreat, but I do not think either could lower their defenses long enough to make any progress.

All I kept thinking is that the young woman on my left would most likely grow into the older woman on my right. What a miserable way to go through life.


The Miracle of Air Travel

Day 155

Thursday I got on a plane and flew south. Within a two hours I was with my daughter’s family and cuddling my youngest grandchild.

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It is a delight to be able to see my family frequently and having access to a reasonably priced airline is a godsend.

Air travel is not glorious. The scanner lit my body scan up like a Christmas tree which meant I had to go through an almost full-body pat down. In addition, they also swiped my hands looking for — who knows? But, after a 15 minute delay I was on my way to the gate.

After boarding I donned my noise cancelling headphones and watched the first episode of the final season of House of Cards. Luckily it was available for download to my iPad so I could enjoy it while in flight.

I wrote about traveling in this blog post back in 2010. It is not like it once was for sure. It used to be almost magical.

What still resonates, however, is that joy of a quick trip with family. I have a week of cuddles to look forward to and you cannot put a price on that!

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Home Again, Home Again

Day 39

IMG_7792I arrived back in North Carolina last night. It was a chilly 40 degrees when I stepped off the plane. We have a bit of a drive from the airport, but luckily hubby brought my jacket so I was cozy warm on the ride home. Quite a shock to the body to go from 74 degrees to 40 in a matter of hours.

Rain Rain Go Away

I guess the theme tonight must be nursery rhymes. Maybe because I’ve just come from such a wonderful visit with my granddaughter. She is at the stage where every hour almost, she learns something new. Such a wonderful time to experience and it makes leaving her so much harder.

Today I slept most of the day — an unfortunate side-effect from the medication I take to prevent motion sickness. I am always relieved when that grogginess is out of my system.

We have had solid rain since last night and it is supposed to rain for most of the next few days. We have had over 87 inches of rain this year. We had draught conditions in 2016 — a far cry from what we have had so far this year and far from our annual average of 61 inches of rainfall.

A Pause in My Blog

I took a short break from writing to do a video chat with our granddaughter. I want to stay in close contact and hope she remembers me from one visit to the next. She loves and shares even over the video. I can see her struggling to understand how I was just there and now I’m on video. But I will take whatever I can get until we are together again.

Then on the heels of that call, we received a video of my almost 6 year old grandson’s first basketball tryout. So cute I cannot stand it. I love that little guy with everything in me. He is so cute and has been so shy it is great to see him coming out of his shell.

My Notes on Air Travel

It isn’t great fun anymore — especially on economy airlines. The seats are small, there are no frills and people are either very reserved or overly boisterous.

We have come a long way in air travel since I first started flying (and not necessarily for the good). I remember free meals and free snacks, pillows and blankets and a host of magazines to choose from as well as movies on most flights of a long enough duration.

Not so much now where everything costs something. Your bag, your seat, your snack….everything!

So my takeaways:

  • Please do not yell at your children for the entire flight.
  • Please do not apply heavily perfumed lotions on the flight.
  • Please do not apply nail polish on the flight.
  • If you must go to the bathroom a lot, perhaps select an aisle seat.
  • If you like to sleep, maybe a window seat would be a good option.
  • Don’t bring carryon’s that obviously do not fit in the overhead bin or under your seat.

On the positive note, I’m so thankful that the stereotypical requirements for flight attendants from the 50’s, 60’s and 70’s have gone by the wayside. Those who are much younger may not remember, but Google it and see – it was definitely sexist in a time when much of air travel was dominated by male travelers.

Back to the Old Grind

I did manage my blog while i was gone, but I am woefully behind in my writing for NaNoWriMo. So, tomorrow, I start playing catch up.

With the cold and rainy weather, I am in the mood for some Chorizo soup and I pulled some chili out of the freezer as well. I love cold weather cooking. Soups, breads, and casseroles are all those wonderful cool weather meals.

All in all my trip was good and I’m glad to be home. That does not mean I do not miss my little ones and wish they were all within arms’s reach. Unfortunately,  that is not realistic and just a grandma’s dream. All I really want is for all of them to be happy and healthy.

“Wherever you go becomes a part of you somehow.” 
Anita Desai