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Three Things Challenge #M202

Three Things Challenge

Sunday’s Three Things Challenge comes to us from Di. Check her post to join in.

Today’s three words are: salt, sea, sand


I gaze out over the vast reach of the sea. It is a passage to faraway places I have never seen and many I am unlikely to ever experience. I feel the sand move between my toes and I am on top of the world. Each grain of sand a remnant of something that once was but will never be again. I feel the salt tighten my skin as it dries on the surface. I am struck by the idea that this moment is temporary and one I am pleased I have experienced.

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Friendship – #JusJoJan 2023


Welcome to day eight of Just Jot It January for 2023. Today’s word is friendship.

Friendship. How to tackle this one?

I have quite a few acquaintances, a number of friendly relationships, a few good friends, and a handful of really close and dear friends. It is interesting to think about what makes up a friendship and what friendship makes it to the status of close friend.

I am reminded of the poem by Welsh composer Joseph Parry:

Make new friends, but keep the old;
Those are silver, these are gold.
New-made friendships, like new wine,
Age will mellow and refine.
Friendships that have stood the test—
Time and change—are surely best;
Brow may wrinkle, hair grow gray,
Friendship never knows decay.
For ‘mid old friends, tried and true,
Once more we our youth renew.
But old friends, alas! may die,
New friends must their place supply.
Cherish friendship in your breast—
New is good, but old is best;
Make new friends, but keep the old;
Those are silver, these are gold.

I am not sure I agree totally that old friends are best, but I do get the gist of what he is saying. I agree with the first two lines, both of which are so valuable in my book.

Our family moved around a lot when I was a child. It was difficult in the times before phones and cellphones and internet to maintain long term relationships. I am still in touch with some of those old friends, but we are not close.

I have learned over the years that friendships can be fragile. It can be a difficult lesson, but one I have come to accept. I do not believe you must struggle to keep a good friendship intact.

Years ago, I bought a book by Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy, better known as SARK. She had a free online forum for her readers and I developed some of the closest friendships of my life through those old bulletin board forums. I had the pleasure of meeting many of them from all over the US and as far away as Australia, England, Scotland, and Germany. I have mourned the death of many of those friends – some of which I never met in person. It did not make the grief any less. We shared years of our life, each one of us in the confines of our own homes. I am still friends with many of them.

Living in this more remote landscape has been more challenging to develop friendships.I have made a few. Being an introvert does not make it any easier. Covid has not helped either. This community has been such a gift over these last few years of stress and lockdowns. I treasure you all.

I miss my sisters so much. We were very good friends apart from being siblings. I feel much the same about my children. They will always be my children, but they are also some of my dearest friends.

I cannot leave out animals when I think of friends. My cat Midnight, the first animal I loved from the deepest caverns of my heart to Smoky, my gray pound cat who saw me through some of the darkest moments of my life. Animals can be the best and dearest friends.

I am not a ‘friend collector’. I do not gather the names of everyone I have ever met and call them my friends. Maybe others can develop all those relationship into friendships, but that is definitely not one of my superpowers. To me, those people are acquaintances or friendly relationships.

The friends I hold closest to  my heart have earned my trust. They know me and my history as I know theirs. We share a trust and a bond that only comes from being honest and vulnerable with my heart. This is the diamond among the dust.


Written as part of Linda Hill’s JusJoJan.

Prompt word today (friendship) submitted by JezzieG from JezzieG.