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Drifting Thoughts on a Sunday

Twelve years ago, my sister Rosie lost her battle with cancer. It is always tough, these grief anniversaries. I try so hard to transition from a grief mindset to a memory mindset, but it is not always easy.

It would be easy to just say she had a tough life, but statements like that devalue the lives of those we loved. I certainly do not want to be remembered for my struggles, so I will not do that to her. She was smart, quick-witted and wielded a powerful pen. She was kind, generous, and opinionated. She had the biggest heart and never knew a stranger. She was musically gifted and taught herself to play the guitar. She made the most beautifully tailored clothes – I was rather envious. She continually tried to hand me the genealogy reins in the family, but I was not interested at the time. Oh, how I regret that decision. Of all the things she was, however, she was my sister, and that is the small aspect of her I miss the most.

I am gradually coming out of this three weeks of sickness. I passed this bug on to hubby, and we are both in the final annoying stages of a cough that just does not want to be over. I still have 5 days of steroids to take and then my medicinal regimen will be complete.

All our children’s families are in back-to-school mode. There is such a long list of things to complete, and for the two college aged grandchildren, packing and moving – one into an apartment as he enters his third year, and one into the dorm as she starts her freshman experience. Such an exciting time. Our youngest granddaughter just turned five and will start kindergarten on Wednesday. She got her first haircut ever on Saturday and seems to have matured so much overnight.

Wednesday I will go back to physical therapy for my exit appointment. I joined the gym the physical therapy place runs so I am anxious to get back. These last three weeks may have jeopardized all the progress I made, but onward and upward.

We have had a juvenile bear come to the house a few of times in the last week. Food must be getting in short supply because he was here in broad daylight and managed to bring down the bird feeder poles, destroying one of the feeders. He actually came back four hours later and again the following day. I will post some pics and videos below. As a result, we will take a break from feeding the birds for a few days.

We also had a bobcat visit last week, but he managed to slip by the game camera by moving along the outside wall of the house. I tried to snap a pic with my cell phone, but he got startled and ran before I could get a photo. All signs the seasons will start changing soon.

We grew tomatillos for the first time this year. I hope to make a salsa verde today. It is always exciting to try something new, especially from our own garden. We managed to harvest a few blueberries, some peppers, and some yellow pear tomatoes. This is the least successful gardening year we have had since moving here.

I wish you a peaceful Sunday. I am going to spend some time honoring my sis today. Thanks for hanging in here with me.

(Turn your volume down on this one.)

Quite impressive when they stand!

Garden harvest
Garden harvest

37 thoughts on “Drifting Thoughts on a Sunday”

  1. Sending you happy thoughts of your sister! That bear looks cute which belies his strength and danger? Your produce looks lovely and I hope you and hubby are much better soon 💜💜💜

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    1. Thank you, Willow.Thinking of my sister and all her wonderful attributes does give me a sense of peace. The bears are quite powerful. We felt fortunate our bird feeder poles were not bent beyond recognition which has happened before. Today I took the tomatillos and peppers and made Salsa Verde. It is so delicious!

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  2. Enjoy your Sunday, Maggie. It sounds like your health is improving. Good.
    And enjoy the last grandchild. Starts school and a fast road to no longer sitting on your lap. With sadness, I know it all too well.

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    1. I am thankful to be feeling better, Don. I was just thinking we had not seem much of our oldest grandson all summer. There was a time we were inseparable. I guess they all have to grow up.

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  3. I know they can be super destructive, but I feel bad for the bears. We are reading about more and more sightings around here, but they keep pushing houses and other buildings farther into the woods.

    The transition from grief to memories can take a long time, Maggie. Your sister sounds like she was a wonderful person. I can understand why you miss her.

    I hope you have a nice week, and return to full health. Good luck to all the kids in transition.

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    1. This poor bear looked a bit underfed, Dan. We know this time of year, the feeders are just too great a temptation with their food supplies dwindling. We love seeing them and give them the space they deserve. They were here first after all.

      I have had e flood of good memories of my sis today so all in all it has been a good day. It does not make me miss her any less, but it makes it a little easier. Thank you for your kindness.

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  4. Poignant memories of your sister, who lives on for all of us in your heart and your words.
    Bears may be dangerous, but I am envious of you being able to see one in your garden.
    (Was that noise a siren you used to scare it away?)
    Best wishes, Pete.

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    1. Thank you, Pete. I appreciate your kind words. We do love to see the bears and give them a wide berth. This one needed a little discouragement from coming back as he was very close to the house. We have a small ‘party’ air horn we use to dissuade them. That is what you heard in the video.

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  5. Wonderful remembrances of your dear sister. ❤
    Your garden vegetables look really good and they are always better than store bought.
    Oh that bear sure took off at the sound of the ? air horn! 🙂

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    1. Thanks so much, Barbara. Our veggies are so much better fresh from the garden. I made the salsa verde this afternoon and it is so delicious. I’ve never grown tomatillos before. Yes, the bears really do not like interacting with humans and loud noises do startle them. But they can move FAST!

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  6. Nice tribute to your sister, Maggie. Condolences to you.

    Great bear pictures. I’ve never seen bobcat. Rare, if at all, in western NY. Beats, yes, but they stay in the woods. Take care.

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    1. I appreciate your kindness, Steve.

      The bobcats are pretty stunning to see. I wish I had gotten a photo. We see the bears quite often, but the cats are a little more evasive. I would not want to tangle with either!

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      1. You’re in a beautiful part of the country. New York is pretty, as well. We’re in western NY, north of the Finger Lakes wine country, along the shores of Lake Ontario. Problem here is that we’re too close to NYC, 300 miles east, but still too close😂. Taxes and crime are too high. Other than that, it’s pretty country, too.

        Take care and keep writing. It’s good therapy.

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        1. Thank you for your encouragement, Steve. You are in a beautiful part of the country. Sadly, urban areas are growing by leaps and bounds everywhere.

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  7. My heart goes out to you Maggie. I lost my younger brother a few years ago (a self-taught guitarist too!) and I know how difficult this particular grief is. We expect to lose our parents, we know this will happen, but we never think we’ll lose or siblings at a young age. Love and light to you!

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    1. Thank you for your understanding. I lost two sisters and I realized they had both been in my life longer than either of my parents. It is a strong bond. I am sorry you had to experience the loss of your brother. It is never easy.

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