1LinerWednesday – You Made Your Bed

You Made Your Bed Now Lie In It

I do not know how many times I heard this in my life. Accountability for our decisions was key. I heard it from my mother, I heard it from my grandmothers and I heard it from every woman who had a hand in raising me. I am not sure it is good advice in retrospect. I know the echo of those words kept me for asking for help when I needed it the most.

This line popped up in my NaNoWriMo novel last night. It was during an interaction between mother and daughter. My mother’s birthday is coming up so maybe her words were echoed from her to me and onto the page.

I am sure she heard these words throughout her life, too. Funny thing, though. Most of the time when we give advice like that, we don’t mean it. We may not agree with the decisions our children make, but we  generally show up for them when needed.

This reminds me of more sage advice I received throughout my life:

Be careful what you ask for; You just might get it.

We ought to offer better advice for future generations, don’t you think?

What advice do you think will echo in the ears of your children or grandchildren?

Definite food for thought.

1LinerWednesday is brought to us every Wednesday by Linda Hill. Check out her blog for the rules and be sure to read the comments for all the other contributions.





18 thoughts on “1LinerWednesday – You Made Your Bed”

  1. I never heard a woman say that to me, but it was a favourite saying of my Dad’s. He liked to tell me that when I was a teenager, anytime something I had done didn’t go to plan.
    His other favourite growl was ‘Grow Up’. But he didn’t like it much when I did. 🙂
    Best wishes, Pete.


    1. I think these phrases are repeated through generations, Pete. And your comment about your dad goes along with the second quote in my blog …be careful what you ask for…

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  2. And “be careful what you wish for” reminds me of one more.
    “Don’t pray for God to teach you patience–you won’t like what he’ll put you through to learn it!” Makes me laugh and laugh and…yep.

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    1. Laura, our mom always said “God will never give you more than you can bear”. My sister always added “I wish God didn’t have so much faith in me”.

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  3. I should think my kids will hear “Spend your life lifting people up, not putting them down.” But they’ll probably remember somethin more nagging, like, “Hydrate.” 😛

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  4. I only ever heard that expression when I was really in self-inflicted trouble. The support was still there, but perhaps in the form of “I’ll pick you up after detention.”

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    1. When I think about it, Dan, I think you are right. My parents never turned me away when I needed them, but I think my own bad decisions made me feel like I disappointed them in some way. I guess this is how I learned to listen to my gut.

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      1. Sadly, I think a lot of people forget this today with their kids. Letting kids fail, letting them realize that they disappointed people (and themselves) lead to important lessons.

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