Sunday Solitude

My pieces from the workshop – still to be polished

Day 294

I woke earlier than my normal time this morning. It felt cool. I tried to lie down and go back to sleep, but morning was calling me out of my bed. Morning has always been my time of day, although it seems to be a later morning as I grow older. I find myself fighting sleep at night, too, trying to take advantage of every hour.

This past week flew by. I know partially because of my two-day workshop. I am glad to be blogging because it serves as a reference to those days that otherwise escape my memory. I am hoping for a slower paced week this week.

Introverts In Extroverted Activities

My workshop was great. Molly is a wonderful teacher and requires each student to do their own work. I have been in classes before where the instructor had no patience and would snatch a student’s work and finish just to move everything along. Molly has the ability to teach, demonstrate and keep things moving at a pace that fits everyone’s ability. It was a great day.

As I have stated before, I am an introvert. Attending functions, classes, etc., is not a friend-making activity for me. I get so immersed in the task at hand, I tend to block everything on the periphery out. This class was no different. I was labeled ‘the quiet one‘. It’s funny how first impressions lead to labeling. The woman seated to my left had an outgoing personality. She made a comment the last day of class that she was working at ‘shutting up and not talking so much‘. Another woman chuckled and said her husband told her ‘try not to act so much like yourself‘. Why must people feel the need to dilute who they are?

Just observations and food for thought.

Back to the Car Search

Tomorrow we are taking my car in for service and we must leave it overnight. That is never ideal because that means one vehicle for us to share, and let’s just say I am not proficient in driving a stick. Our mechanic is an hour south of us see we will continue our car shopping after we drop my car off for service. After the issue with the A/C (which has mysteriously corrected itself) we are thinking we need to focus on finding a car sooner rather than later.

Two weeks ago, we went back to a dealership where we were evaluating a Subaru and a Volvo. This was our second trip to this particular dealership. We worked with the same young salesman. On our prior visit, the sales manager came to talk to us — very old school techniques. He offered to let us take a car home overnight and talked about the wonderful discounts and incentives they had to offer.

We had narrowed our choices down to two vehicles that we wanted to test drive then bring home overnight. Fast-forward past the test drives. We had decided on a vehicle, but when it came time to run the numbers, everything changed. We were really low-balled on the trade-in which was perhaps to be expected. When the numbers came up, it was above the sticker price. We both said, no, this would not work, we had a budget after all. The salesman asked what we were thinking in terms of a budget so we told him. Then he went back to the sales manager. That’s when things went south.

A few minutes later, the sales manager came back to the table with the salesman. He did not say hello or good day or nice to see you again. Instead he started raising his voice at us in the middle of the showroom. He asked us why we thought they should discount this vehicle so much. My husband and I just looked at each other in total disbelief. The behavior did not subside. I told hm he was being very aggressive and I did not know why. He continued with his tirade when hubby said give me my keys, we are done here.

I could see the salesman cringing and trying to insert himself, but it was too late. I told him we would not ever buy a car from them, that he was very aggressive and we did not deserve his behavior. He then spit out the phrase I hate to hear. “I am sorry you feel this way.” Not, I was an ass, not I am sorry for my own behavior…just that he was sorry we could not tolerate his BS behavior.

Lessons learned. Paying cash for a car hurts you. They have no place to hide the non-existent discounts. There are lots of deals if you finance a car, but not if you pay cash. They love that interest and hope you will finance through their corporate machine.

Nature Goings On

The gold finches have completely de-seeded all but one of our three sunflowers. Makes me happy they can find food in what we provide.

This morning I cleaned the hummingbird feeder and made fresh food. The hummingbirds have been hovering at the window to inform us we were quite slack in our bird feeding duties.

We have been inundated with millipedes and centipedes this year. Thousands of them. We have lived here three years and have never seen them like this. Some are making their way into the house which is annoying because they cannot survive without water. We find them scattered about the house dead. The only recourse is the remove leaf clutter and food sources which is our environment. Not much possibility in getting rid of all of their food sources.

The neighbors’s cat visits several times a day. He gets shooed off when he hangs out under the bird feeders. At 7:00 a.m. this morning, he was drinking out of a puddle of fresh rainwater in the driveway. I am not sure his family cares for him the way they should.

Now to Relax

I am headed over to Teagan’s place to read all about the crossroads in one sitting. I got behind a few weeks ago and decided to wait and read it all at one time. Yay for coffee and reading. Then I will saunter over to Beetley Pete’s blog to read some of his short stories he is reposting for his new readers.

After that it will be time to catch up and respond to comments on my own blog. Seems like a perfect way to spend a cloudy Sunday afternoon.

Later tonight I hope to resume my Sunday video call with friends. Nice way to wind up the weekend, I think..


17 thoughts on “Sunday Solitude”

  1. I felt as if I was there with you, in that car showroom. In the late 1970s, I once had a salesman actually DECLINE to let me buy a new car for cash, at the advertised price. He tried to explain that they make zero profit that way, and the only way they make any commission is to sell a finance deal of some sort with the car. He actually shook his head at me, saying loudly “NOBODY PAYS CASH ANYMORE!”
    Naturally, I went elsewhere.
    Nice to see your finished jewellery. I like the bit on the right that looks like an ‘egg-whisk’.
    It is all really well crafted, Maggie.
    Thanks for the mention of my blog too. 🙂
    Best wishes, Pete.

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    1. It’s funny, Pete. We work hard all our lives to get out from under the credit scams that eat away at our livelihood. Then we finally reach a point when we can use our hard earned money and it turns out to be a detriment. We are definitely looking elsewhere.

      Thanks for the comments on the jewelry. I am now on the hunt for a polishing tumbler to make it sparkle.

      Pete, your blog, as I have stated before, is somethig I look forward to. I am happy to spread the word.

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  2. That’s quite the week you’ve had. I would’ve walked out on the car dealer as well. Jeez!! Hope the rest of your day is enjoyable and that you get to relax.

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  3. I love this part: “This morning I cleaned the hummingbird feeder and made fresh food. The hummingbirds have been hovering at the window to inform us we were quite slack in our bird feeding duties.”

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    1. Thanks, Dan. I am now on the hunt for a tumbler to polish the pieces. They will be much nicer afterward.

      The dealership was a mess. I will be doing a Yelp review to add to the host of other bad reviews they received. It is a shame.

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      1. We were successful, but we chose a dealer we’ve been working with for several years for service on my wife’s car, and our daughter has had great luck there. The dealer is farther away than we like, but the closest one is a sad story like yours, so I’ll never go back.

        Good luck finding the tumbler.


  4. I am glad you stayed true to who you are. I am like that in a class, and also, I have trouble following exactly what the teacher is doing when we are not given a choice of what WE want to create (but this would be an art quilt class, not what you are doing). I just find that I cannot do what the teacher is doing except in technique. I start fidgeting and getting up and down to go to the bathroom (even when I don’t need to go) and I imagine I am being rude, but I just can’t do what everyone else is doing. The teacher who shows a technique and not a style is so much better by my standards.

    Oh, and the cat, if he or she is drinking out of a puddle, probably either does not have an owner anymore or really needs some water put out for him in a dish during the hot weather. People take in cats and when they generally let them wander outside, they are no longer interested in having the cats. I have rescued so many animals in my lifetime that people have “dumped,” dogs and cats and even a desert tortoise who turned out to be in his 70’s, and was rescued just prior to walking up the street into a storm drain. I had him for many years and he was happy to have a home and good food to eat all the time – food that helped him live a long life. I would say it wouldn’t hurt even if the cat belongs to someone to make sure he at least has water. He might be able to catch some food for himself, but if he starts looking too skinny, he isn’t able to get adequate food either.

    Great article and I like your jewelry. I think the only jewelry I have made was with the seeds from pumpkins and some wood beads between. But I always admire what others make and wear. Thank you once again for the good article.

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    1. Anne, I think the cat is cared for, I just think he spends too much time outside for the heat we are having. He is a very friendly little guy.

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  5. I love the jewelry. I have only tried making it once, but your experience has awakened my interest in it. I had the experience of buying a car with cash and encountered only graciousness. Don’t know why it mattered to your rude sales manager.

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    1. Elizabeth, I am not sure why this sales manager had such a bad attitude, but it made me thankful I did not see the world the way he seems to. I am happy to have re-sparked your interest in jewelry. Maybe we will see some of your creations at a later date.

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  6. I also had a bad car-buying experience. It was horrendous, really, and I ended up elsewhere as well.
    I tend to be quiet in most social situations, too. If I have something to say, I’ll say it, I’m not shy, but I’d rather listen, observe, and learn.
    I do not like pedes of any sort. I would be mortified. But hey, at least you have hummingbirds! 😀

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